Barrett Baker Vogelgesang (Barry)


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Biography: Barrett Baker Vogelgesang (Barry) came quietly into this world on November 15, 1984, and left just as quietly on August 22, 2012. He is survived by his mother, Gayle Newton Nicholson and stepfather, Tyler Nicholson; his brother, Ben Vogelgesang (Kelley, nee Donovan), and his grandmother, Imogene (Jean) Ruth Vogelgesang. He was predeceased by his father, James Edward Vogelgesang, paternal grandfather (Bill Vogelgesang), and maternal grandparents (Brantley and Marguerite Newton). Barry was the most pleasant guy who ever sauntered to his own drummer. Always quick with a comeback, he was smart, clever, personable, kind and caring. He loved the common man, and sought out interaction with older people and children - because he knew they were "real." He was unimpressed with conventional society and pretty well ignored it. He loved animals for the same reasons, and was one of the founding members of the Hendrix Society of Animal Friends. Barry attended LR Public schools, graduating from Jefferson Elementary, Pulaski Heights Jr. High and Central High schools. When it was time to apply for college, Barry's counsellor warned his parents not to expect too much, in terms of college choices. Undeterred by her low expectations, Barry went to Hendrix College in Conway, being awarded a President's Scholarship on the basis of his ACT scores, graduating with a B.A. degree in four years. He achieved one of the top scores in the country that year on the Major Field Test in Sociology, a graduation requirement. Unfortunately, Barry was diagnosed with a serious digestive disease soon after graduation, and underwent a series of surgeries that in combination with his illness, left him weak and unable to sustain good health for any significant period of time. Still, he chose to remain independent, interested in life, and tried to help those around him. It was not unusual for him to pick up someone walking along a hot road and give them a lift, or take a homeless person to get a bite to eat. He loved to cook, work on computers (building and repairing), read good literature, listen to cheerful music, play board and electronic games with friends, and was a strong, insightful writer. He created his first website when he was 16, titling it "Mr. Humphrey's Page of Happiness," using his pet rat Mr. Humphrey as his inspiration. Imagine his joy on 9/20/2000 when the website won the "Worst of the Web" award for that day! The world will be a much sadder place without Barry. He made people love him, without even trying. He never sought to impress or to be impressed. He looked for the 'real" in life, and was disappointed when at times it was hard to find. We think that Barry would want to thank all of his friends, both past and present. You all made his life interesting, and bearable at times when health and life issues became too overwhelming. Thank you to his numerous doctors and nurses - especially the ones who saw him as a person, and not just another in a never-ending line of patients. We, his family, would like to thank our friends who gave and continue to give us support over the years, through constant prayers, good wishes, and encouragement. It meant so much when you asked about Barry. Don't be afraid to talk about him now. It keeps him alive in our memories and always in our hearts. Donations may be made to the Animal Rescue associations of your choice. Barry's ultimate goal was to start his own animal rescue mission, as he told his mother during a car ride, with the cd playing the Kinks' song, "On Animal Farm." She can still see his smile and head bouncing along with the music?"I want to be back there among the cats and the dogs and the pigs and the goats?" She likes to imagine that he's there now, smiling and dancing a happy jig among the laughing animals. Funeral services will be held on Tuesday, August 28, 2012 at 3:00 PM in the chapel of Ruebel Funeral Home with Rev. Jerry Collins officiating. Visitation will be held one hour prior to the service at 2:00PM. Burial services will be private. Arrangements by Ruebel Funeral Home, www.ruebelfuneralhome.com

Condolences(37)
Gayle Nicholson
#37
Mar 15th, 2019 11:44 am
On this, the third anniversary of Barry's death, I want to thank all of you for the memories you shared on this page. I read your comments time and time again, and they always make me smile. I pray that each of you thinks of Barry as I do, in unexpected moments, and that your memories bring you a sense of love, peace and laughter. God bless each of you!
Teija
#36
Mar 15th, 2019 11:44 am
Gayle, I had no idea about your son. My heart and prayers are with you. You must be a very good mother to have such a wonderful son. Teija
Alex Rock
#35
Mar 15th, 2019 11:44 am
I only met Barry through others a few times in college. He was a member of a group of friends whose cohesiveness, familiarity, and ease with each other I greatly admired and was envious of. I just learned of his death tonight, and am crying bitterly as I type this.

What I know of him is mostly from the internet, but I think we shared the same sense of absurd wonder and appreciation for the same sort of ridiculous online antics. He was easily funny enough to have been at home as a staff writer for The Onion or on any number of other satirical media sites. I would have loved to have read his work as I reached a ripe old age as I pined for the days when the internet was mysterious and surprising.

More than all that, he gave me the benefit of the doubt, at a time when I didn't deserve it. That type of compassion is the hardest to give, but also the most essential. The world needs more people with his high caliber of humor and vast depth of empathy. I am truly sorry for your loss, as well as the world's.
Lindy Fair
#34
Mar 15th, 2019 11:44 am
It is clear that the world will be sadder without Barry close at hand and my heart goes out to you, Gayle, and your family. I'm so sorry he had to experience so much pain while he was here and sorry he had to leave so soon but the way he was loved and shared that love with others shines out of the words you have written about him. You are all in our thoughts and prayers, Lindy Fair and family
Robin Drake-Sanders
#33
Mar 15th, 2019 11:44 am
Dear Gayle and Family,My family and I are so sorry for your lose. I can not even imagine how hard this is to go through. I want you to know that I am thinking of you every minute on your tragic lose here. If you need anything, do not hesitate to let us know. My family is here for you anytime. love, Robin, Fred and also my 2 children. We love you, Robin
Jim Gibbons
#32
Mar 15th, 2019 11:44 am
Dear Gayle and Family: Please accept my heartfelt condolences in the passing of your beloved son, Barry. Words cannot begin to express what the heart wants to say, so please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers as you walk this path. Although I never got to know Barry, it sounds like he was a remarkable young man who touched many lives. God bless you all as you cherish his memory - Jim
Susan Lawrence
#31
Mar 15th, 2019 11:44 am
Gayle,
My heart is filled with such deep sadness for you and your family in the loss of your precious son Barry. Please know that each of you will be in my thoughts and prayers now, and in the weeks ahead . I'm so sorry. Love, Susan
Marilyn Hill Jacuzzi
#30
Mar 15th, 2019 11:44 am
Gayle,
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Sarah Engeler-Young
#29
Mar 15th, 2019 11:44 am
I am so very sorry to hear about your family's loss. When he was a student at Hendrix, Barry was our family's cat-sitter par excellence. We loved having him around and would keep an eye out on our travels for the perfect thank-you souvenir for Barry. Whether we presented him with an Old Fart hat or a Precious Moments Chapel t-shirt, he would just smile his crooked little smile and happily put whatever it was on. My most enduring mental image of Barry involves a day that he had generously agreed to babysit our then 6 year-old daughter on campus while we both worked. At one point, I looked out my window and saw Barry off in the distance, towing Zelda down a sidewalk on a wheeled office chair with an electrical cord tether. Barry is remembered fondly and often in our household and now will be greatly missed as well.
Stephanie Newton
#28
Mar 15th, 2019 11:44 am
Gayle, Tyler, and Ben,

I was saddened to hear about the loss of Barry. I am so sorry. I did not know Barry well, but from what I understand he was a unique and wonderful man who cared deeply about animals. Memories cannot be taken away, so hold those close to your heart. You are all in my thoughts and prayers.

Stephanie
James Szenher
#27
Mar 15th, 2019 11:44 am
Barry?s been a good friend of mine for several years, and my roommate for the past 5 months. I hope he would forgive me for stumbling through this; I?m just not as good a writer as he was. I definitely wasn't Barry's closest friend, but I was the last one to see him and the first one to know he had left.

I'm not sure if I can describe or fully understand the way that Barry affected me or anyone else, but I know that he was one of our favorite people. He wasn't always easy to get along with, and sometimes my relationship with him was contentious. He was the most honest person I?ve ever known and he never hesitated to challenge anyone, even his friends, when he felt like they needed to be challenged. I think this is why I respected him more than just about anybody. He made me uncomfortable sometimes, but I usually ended up appreciating the lessons he taught, and it always felt rewarding to be around him.

Our group of friends seems to be closer than most; there?s something about our shared experience which connects us on a deeper level. Barry added so much to that experience that I don?t think any of us has been able to fully come to terms with his absence yet. Right now, all I can do is think of all the joy that he brought all of us, and the little bits of mischief that make me smile and laugh.
Tracie Byrd
#26
Mar 15th, 2019 11:44 am
Gayle, Tyler and Ben,
I don't even have words to express how deeply sorry I am. I didn't have the pleasure of really knowing Barry; but I heard a lot about him through his mother. I know he was very loved and admired for always staying true to who he was and not being easily swayed by the crowd. I pray God's comfort and peace be with you.
Ethan Moore
#25
Mar 15th, 2019 11:44 am
Love you. Miss you.
Jaydeep Patangia
#24
Mar 15th, 2019 11:44 am
I have known Barry since Kindergarten . We were very good friends for a long time. I have countless memories of him. There are few friends I have had that long, and I will forever miss him. He was one of the smartest people I have ever meet.
Don & Carolyn Griffin
#23
Mar 15th, 2019 11:44 am
Gayle, Tyler & Family:
Our condolences to you in your loss.
May the Lord bless you all.
Allison Hammons
#22
Mar 15th, 2019 11:44 am
Barry was a kind, hilarious, and brave person. I am so sad I didn't get to tell him how much I thought of him. RIP, friend.
Betsy Cooper
#21
Mar 15th, 2019 11:44 am
It's rare to meet genuinely nice people in this world. Barry was one of them. I'm so sorry.
Ginette Clark
#20
Mar 15th, 2019 11:44 am
My daughter, Melissa, called about the loss of her friend Barry. She talked about him for a long time, how he is always teasing her about "time to come home from Philly" and that he went with her the day she sold her car prior to leaving for Philly. She talked about her other friends who knew Barry and I knew of them too. It is unusual that I did not meet Barry out of this crowd Melissa ran around with from High School till now. But listening to her talk about him I feel like I know him and that he will be very missed. My prayers to his family and friends.
Susan Sullivan
#19
Mar 15th, 2019 11:44 am
Gayle,
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family
Dietlinde Heilmayr
#18
Mar 15th, 2019 11:44 am
Barry was one of the most sincere and humble people I've ever met. He always had a way of making me feel comfortable and accepted, especially when I felt awkward. I am lucky to have gotten to spend the time with him that I did, but wish I had been able to tell him how wonderful he was. I know he'll be missed by many people, and I send my condolences to his friends and family.
Alex Cameron
#17
Mar 15th, 2019 11:44 am
Barry was pretty hip. He was definitely cooler than me, and I'm lucky that he wanted to hang at all.

The last time I saw Barry, I made him play this card game that I was really excited about called Saboteur. He didn't like it, but he apologized for not liking it which was really sweet of him. I'm sad that we're not going to play games again.

I can't make it to the service, but I'm thinking about Barry, about his family, and about all of his friends that were a lot closer to him than I was. I'm really going to miss him.
Phillip Howard
#16
Mar 15th, 2019 11:44 am
Barry aka "B" aka "Barry Manilow" - I will always remember the times we shared and all the fun moments. Barry was easily one of the coolest people I've ever met. He was my first roommate upon starting college at Hendrix College in 2004 and we have been friends ever since. I'm truly saddened by this news as a great guy was taken much too soon. My condolences go out to the family, especially his mother whom I had the pleasure of meeting once in 2004. R.I.L. Barry...

- P-DOT
Elizabeth Price
#15
Mar 15th, 2019 11:44 am
I went to school with Barry for 10 years-from Jr. High through college. We became friends in Algebra class in 7th grade. He will always be one of the most genuinely kind and gentle people I've ever met. RIP Barry
Tammy Agard
#14
Mar 15th, 2019 11:44 am
Barry will be missed by all who were fortunate to know him. Though my time with Barry was short, he made his unique impression on me. His sense of humor and kind heart were appreciated. Im sad you left so soon...
Jan and Chuck
#13
Mar 15th, 2019 11:44 am
Our prayers and thoughts are with you during this tragic time.
Matt Moore
#12
Mar 15th, 2019 11:44 am
I think about funny things Barry used to do almost every single day. A huge chunk of my funniest memories from junior high and high school involve him, and I feel very lucky to have had him as a friend for those years. Barry was extremely real, and did not hold anything back. Though it's been probably three years since I had spoken with him and siginificantly longer since I last saw him, the memories I have with him are priceless.
Russell Moore
#11
Mar 15th, 2019 11:44 am
I want to express my condolences as a friend of Barry's. We met at Hendrix College. I'm now living abroad in Korea so I haven't seen him much fort he past two years, but he has had a presence in my mind. Sometimes when I have challenges or hard times I imagine what Barry would tell me to do. That won't change anytime soon I think.

He named one of his rats, and his fake younger cousin--who he pretended to be when he shaved his beard, and fooled a lot of people--after my Dad. Those are two things I'll remember fondly, among others.

I hope the peace Barry has now also finds his closest friends and family soon.
Eric Gamble
#10
Mar 15th, 2019 11:44 am
Barry and I met back in college through Joseph Hooker. I would sometimes come visit the Hendrix crew from Memphis on the weekends. I'm usually pretty reluctant to let my guard down around new people but Barry made it really easy. We liked each other immediately. He was such a fun and loving guy that first time we met. There's no doubt that he had lived every moment of his life with this much welcoming and love that he greeted me with. He really did know how to make someone feel special. He made me feel special.
Lisa Schmerold
#9
Mar 15th, 2019 11:44 am
Gayle, Tyler, Ben , Kelley , Gussie and My sweet Aunt Jean

Was so sorry to hear of Barrys passing and i send my condolences to you and all of the family during this difficult time .Its never easy to lose someone you loved so dearly . We all loved Barry here in St.Louis he will be missed . Know that we love you all and wish we could be there for you during this difficult time . Lots of Love , Lisa Cash Schmerold ,Jim and Aaron
Lara Catherine Morrow
#8
Mar 15th, 2019 11:44 am
I did not have the pleasure of knowing Barry intimately, if at all, during our mutual years at Hendrix; however, I did have the honor of sharing one magical -- well, legendary, truth be told -- evening with him in late 2009. It was the autumn after my own graduation, and a time when my personal belief that the world is one gargantuan cavern ripe for spelunking reached solidification.

I was introduced to Barry through a mutual friend of ours, and what began as an evening spent enjoying a live Meat Puppets show in downtown Little Rock, turned into an expedition fit for venturers of the utmost caliber. After our friend hit the hay in anticipation of the workday that was to follow, Barry and I, left to our own devices, opted to embark on an exploration of both the geographical and the theoretical. We climbed the external fire escape of an abandoned building that we stumbled upon a few blocks away from my downtown apartment. On the roof and thirteen stories high, we discussed everything from the politics of contemporary society's take on relationships to cats as we enjoyed a nighttime view of Little Rock that neither of us had before seen, and ultimately watched the sun rise.

Then we busted through the one window of the building that wasn't already busted and obtained a cushy office chair for my under-furnished pad; which Barry, ever the gentleman, carried back for me.

Though this tale encapsulates the only time that I ever had the privilege of knowing Barry, it remains one of my, if not my absolute, fondest memories.
Kate Lloyd
#7
Mar 15th, 2019 11:44 am
Barry had one of the sharpest wits of anyone I've ever known. In college he went out of his way to get to know me and make me feel accepted. Though he probably didn't realize it, he was one of several very intelligent, clever and rebellious people I met in school who helped me figure out who I was and who I wanted to be. He will be dearly missed, and I will keep him, his family and his many good friends in my thoughts.
Loretta Hogue
#6
Mar 15th, 2019 11:44 am
I loved the times I had with Barry! We would always end up laughing at the craziest things. Barry was an awesome person and will be greatly missed! He was very special to me and always will be!!
George Matthew Karpoff
#5
Mar 15th, 2019 11:44 am
Barry inspired me to be myself, he gave so much to those around him without any desire or need for a return. He was a truly wonderful and good person, I am so thankful to have him as a part of my own life and to experience in his brilliance and friendship.

With unending love,

George Karpoff

Terry Clayton Paulson
#4
Mar 15th, 2019 11:44 am
Thinking of your family, and wishing I had had the great pleasure of knowing Barry..
Chris Rouby Velasquez
#3
Mar 15th, 2019 11:44 am
Gayle, I am so sorry for your heartbreaking loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Chris
Ashley Davis
#2
Mar 15th, 2019 11:44 am
Barry -- It was a pleasure to know and work with you. You will be missed. Best, Ashley
Anne and Wayne Melvin
#1
Mar 15th, 2019 11:44 am
Gayle, we are keeping you and all your family in our prayers. I know this is one of the toughest times you all will ever go through, but know that God will carry you through. Barry is now resting in His arms. We love you, Anne and Wayne

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